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Armchair Psychoanalysis: Anthony Weiner and the Tweets of Doom

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Armchair Psychoanalysis: Anthony Weiner and the Tweets of Doom

To preface, I am not Anthony Weiner’s psychotherapist, psychologist, psychoanalyst, or hypnotist, but I thought it would be interesting to explore some of the facets of this mega faux pas and use this event as a “teachable moment”, a way of exploring psychological ideas.

Now, I do not know Congressman Weiner, so I don’t profess to know AT ALL, what was and is going through his mind. Even if I did know him, I’m sure there is such a panoply of potential explanations and rationalizations for his behavior that we could theorize for days and weeks and months, and still not know. Any understanding of his psyche will only occur within the private and secure bounds of his own therapy, painstakingly discovered through a dedicated and authentic process. We will never know. Hopefully he will articulate, for himself,  a narrative that will help him express and rework these longings, fears and compulsions. I don’t know him, and I am not trying to figure him out– my friends and patients will tell you that I tend to believe it is a futile exercise to make any attempt to decode the meaning of a another man’s behavior. Let’s just use our imaginations and play and try to learn about how the mind works.

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Authentic Living, Part 1

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Authentic Living, Part 1

It is better to be hated for what you are than loved for what you are not.” (André Gide)

This statement feels painful and confusing to me.  I know deeply, though, how apt it is and how becoming your true self involves wearing these words everyday. Hopefully, to accept and live who we are doesn’t involve being hated very often, but it does involve facing our fears of being hated and abandoned.  We are born to be attached and connected to others.  Loving and being loved is what we live for. But this love often comes at a price.  As babies, attachment is what keeps us safe and cared for.  One of our greatest fears in life is being

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Altered States, Part 1

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Altered States, Part 1

Hypnosis is an altered state, a deep sense of relaxation, engendered in the context of feelings of safety and security created in the hypnosis experience between patient and therapist. Unconscious states of mind become receptive to dialogue and influence. During this process, those critical and fearful voices that tell us that we can’t change or that we will fail are relaxed, and we are more open to new possibilities and trust in the wisdom of the unconscious. As we know, the mind, brain and body are so interconnected as to be one entity. During hypnosis, the illusory delineation between these functions is erased and there is a seamless interpenetration and influence between them. Thus, hypnotic suggestions spoken to the mind, brain and body, create changes in the nervous system. Anxiety is particularly responsive to hypnosis treatment,

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