It is better to be hated for what you are than loved for what you are not.” (André Gide)

This statement feels painful and confusing to me.  I know deeply, though, how apt it is and how becoming your true self involves wearing these words everyday. Hopefully, to accept and live who we are doesn’t involve being hated very often, but it does involve facing our fears of being hated and abandoned.  We are born to be attached and connected to others.  Loving and being loved is what we live for. But this love often comes at a price.  As babies, attachment is what keeps us safe and cared for.  One of our greatest fears in life is being

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